I have had many times in my life that brought me to my knees, put me in deep sadness, and created enormous stress but this moment in time 16 years ago today, is one that brought me incredible fear and complete powerlessness.

‘On December 23, 2004, I made dinner for Gil (my second husband), Sam (my daughter) and me. Sam’s girlfriend was coming to pick her up and go out for the evening. She came in and had a bite to eat…